This morning I was watching a video on how we make ourselves confused. The video was from Donald Miller and is one of a series in his Business Made Simple Daily offering. These videos are short, only 3 or 4 minutes long and give the tricks and tools of running a business. Many of them talk about the principals in his book, StoryBrand, which I highly recommend.
This morning he was talking about how we sometimes choose to be confused and what we can do if we find ourselves in that situation. This is important because confusion is the quagmire of decision making and being successful in our chosen professions means we have to make decisions quickly and well.
So, how do we choose to get confused?
Let’s say you have a staff person that’s difficult, very difficult and you’re thinking about letting that person go. The minute you think this, you remember the health issues this person has and wince at the thought of adding to their burdens. Besides that, work-wise, you need this person and don’t know how you’ll find the time to interview and hire someone else. On and on the mind will go, throwing more and more complexity at you until you don’t know what to do.
Donald suggests this formula. Say to yourself: “The unfortunate truth of this situation is _____________________, therefore, the right action to take is ______________”
This statement will help you drop out of your head and into your body. I like to tweak Donald’s sentence so it reads: “Even though I don’t want to admit it, the unfortunate, but barebone truth of this situation is ____________________, therefor the right action to take is ________________”
Confusion Can Be So Confusing!
It’s helpful to remember that “confusion” is a mind thing. Sentence Completions are a great way to drop out of the confusion and get down to basics. I discuss them in my book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. In the book, I also outline a kinesthetic exercise that will help access your body knowing. Here is one such technique you can try on your own:
Pick a situation you want to make a decision about. Stand and imagine that situation in front of you. Close your eyes and just breathe for a minute or two. As you settle, notice whether your body is feeling an inclination forward, so you’re moving closer to this situation, or away, so you would be more distant from the situation. The inclination to go forward or back may be very subtle or it may be very strong. This will usually tell you what your body thinks about going forward or not. Or, if you truly are undecided, you may find yourself swaying from side to side. If that’s the case, you aren’t ready to make a decision.
If you’d like to learn more about these tools, please check out my book or contact me, and we can discuss how you can use these tools more effectively. My mission is to give people the tools to feel more in charge of themselves and their lives.
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Have a great week! I’m Canadian, so I’ve done my trial by turkey, but for my American friends, have a good one.