IS SELF-MASTERY POSSIBLE?

October 22, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

SUPER SELF-MASTERY

How to Keep Your Power & Poise No Matter What

Tired of being reactive to other people’s stuff?
Frustrated by not feeling in charge, even over your thoughts and feelings?

As a personal development coach for decades, I’ve taught a LOT of people how to stay strong and centered in tough times. I want to share the tools I’ve learned with people who aren’t my clients, so I wrote the book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. The book is getting great reviews, but I want people to really understand and apply the tools, so I’ve developed a course called: SUPER SELF-MASTERY.

This is the first time I have offered this course online and I’m looking for a few people to try it out and give me feedback about it. In return I am discounting it significantly.

In this one-on-one six-week coaching program you will:

Deepen your connectedness to your authentic self.
Help you stay ‘home’ during challenges.
Become more in charge of your feelings, thoughts and behaviours.
Give you a wonderful sense of self-mastery and peace.

The program will teach you several self-mastery tools: Intention, Breathwork, Visualization, Meditation, EFT tapping protocols, Future Self work, Staunching Energy Drains, Daily Attunement, Kinesiology and Radical Self-Responsibility. To deepen your experience, there will be short, daily assignments on weekdays. To make sure you get the most out of the program, you will have unlimited email access to me for tweaking the tools, encouragement and accountability.

For more info, email me: karen@personalbest.org or call 705-634-8371.

If you’re ready to take charge of yourself and your life, this program could change everything.

Visualization is Brain Magic!

October 16, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

Visualization, Part Two:

I wanted to write to you about visualization again, because I know you’re interested in self-mastery and visualization is such a powerful tool for the process of creating.

Most of us believe what we see. Yet research shows that often, what we see has more to do with our expectations (which are based on our existing beliefs) than any supposed ‘reality’ out there. Placebos are a living example of this. An experiment a few years ago involved several people having knee surgery to reduce pain. Some of the participants had the surgery, but others had an exact replica of the surgery, but had nothing done beyond the incision. Remarkably, both groups reported similar reductions in pain. Why? Because the brain had been primed to expect that and rearranged what it perceived.

Our Brains Self-Select:

Our brains have powerful filters that let in certain thoughts and block others. The brain actually scans the world for evidence of what it knows and will often disregard what it doesn’t think is true. This is called “confirmation bias”. If you want to test this out yourself, tell yourself red cars are everywhere, then begin to notice how you start seeing a great number of them.

As uncomfortable as it might make you, what you believe is going to determine what you see. If you think rainy days are depressing, your brain will notice all the depressing things you encounter on days that it rains and not notice the lovely things.

If you want to change what you attract, you need to change your confirmation bias and get yourself very familiar with the vibrational pattern of what you want. This is why the tool of visualization which I discuss in my book, Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine, is so important: it modulates your brain and your entire energetic system to vibrate in coherence with what you want. As Abraham Hicks says, “You can’t percieve apart from your vibration.”

The wonderful thing about visualization is that you can do it anywhere and anytime. Picture what you want already being true in your life and imagine it as vividly as you can, involving all of your senses. Start scanning the world for evidence of how this is true, even if that seems to be true just for others right now.

Make sure you take a moment to imagine all the lovely feelings you will experience when your visualization manifests. Let yourself feel proud, happy, excited, joyful, valued. Elevated emotions provide the ‘chemicals’ that catalyse the creation process. and feeling strong emotions will crank up your whole energetic system so it’s in alignment with what you want to create.

Then one day, you will wake up and realize that you’re living the very life that was only a dream a few years ago. I had that experience myself when I reviewed an old vision board I’d made a decade earlier. I realized, to my amazement, that I’d created 90% of everything on that board.

We all can do this. The brain is very powerful and everything we could ever want already exists. The task is to download it into your life. Visualize is one of the best tools you can use to do that.

To learn visualization or any other self-empowerment tools, check out my book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. You get the first 3 chapters free when you sign up for my newsletter. Click HERE. The book is also available for purchase at Amazon.ca

How not to get muddy when you’re stuck in the ditch

September 25, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

There are two stages to making anything happen: getting something moving, and keeping something moving. Of the two, the ‘activation’ stage is the hardest. If you’ve ever driven into a ditch and tried to get unstuck, you know that to be true. Just getting something in motion can take a substantial amount of teeth-clenching grit. But once you do, the force of the motion, momentum, starts doing part of the work for you and it’s easier.

As a personal development coach, I work a lot with people who are stuck. Some people get stuck for a short period of time, others for longer. I’ve noticed a few characteristics of those who stay stuck for a while.

1) They spend time and energy focussing on how unfair it is that they’re in the ditch.

2) They beat themselves (or others) up for getting stuck.

3) They focus on the repercussions of being stuck—how it’s going to make them late, what their significant might say, etc.

All of these responses will just get your covered in more mud. And they’ll drain your energy and make it harder to do the one thing you need to do: get on the road again.

At times like this, visualization can be a veritable tow-truck.

People often underestimate the power of visualizaton for getting unstuck. But visualization gets you to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want and this will catalyze new solutions to flood into your mind. It will make you feel hopeful and more energetic for taking action. Lastly, because we live in a “Like attracts Like” universe, (that’s why people tend to return your smile when you give them one and stop complimenting you if you reject their positive compliments) visualization will prompt the Universe to get busy matching your vision.

Are you convinced yet? Start using it and see what happens. For greatest impact, it’s best to lay down the energetic foundation of what you want to create as clearly as you can. So, when you do a visualization, make it as vivid as possible. Using the car in the ditch example, imagine the feeling of the gas pedal on the ball of your right foot, the sound of the car engine as it speeds down the road, the satisfied feeling you’ll have in your belly when you’re driving away. Because soon you will be. And when you are, you won’t be drained by letting the rats of negative thinking feed on your energy field.

Visualization is one of many tools I discuss in my new book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. I wrote the book because I wanted to offer more people the tools I use in my coaching practice. My vision is to teach people how to self-modulate and become more self-empowered to create soul-satisfying lives.

The book is getting great reviews, but one I particularly liked this week was:

“Pure gold. It’s more than a ‘must-read’, it’s an eternal read, a loving resource book and a joyous gift to the soul.” Nancy Falconer.

To get the first 3 chapters for free, click HERE. If you want to order the book, click HERE.

Find Your Inner Gold book is HERE!

September 3, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

It’s here! Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine is now out in the world!! Its a go-to book for learning how to let go of difficult thoughts and emotions and go for a soul-satisfying life.

Here is one of the reviews that came in today:

“In her new book, Find Your Inner Gold: 21 Powerful Tools To Bring Back Your Shine, Karen Hood-Caddy reveals 21 tools to help you identify your own truth and transform your life so you can live in the world in a way that makes you glow. By applying the tools, you might be amazed to discover you are achieving what many, including yourself, would have regarded as impossible.” Martin Avery, teacher and writer.

Check it out. The publisher is offering the soft cover at $11.95 US ($15.95 Can) and the e-book is only $3.99 ($5.99 Can) Available at Chapters Indigo, Amazon.ca and Amazon.com plus Balboa.com

If you’d like to receive the first three chapters of the book so you can see if it’s for you, click HERE!

5 Disastrous Communication Mistakes

July 21, 2015 By Karen Leave a Comment

Common Communication Mistakes:

When Carol first called me for coaching, she had a long list of complaints about her husband, who I’ll call Don. Even though they’d only been married a few years, she was not happy with him. And of course, he felt the sting of her disappointment. Yet really, Carol was just committing one of many common communication mistakes.

The problem, as I saw it, was not her feelings, it was how she dealt with them – by complaining to her husband regularly. As a result, he became so used to hearing her upsets that he started ignoring them and telling her that he didn’t think he could ever make her happy.

Making Disastrous Communication Mistakes Better:

I asked Carol to list her complaints in the order of upset they caused her. She made the list happily. I then started to work with her on complaint #5. (I didn’t want to start with the most upsetting) and asked her to write why this bothered her.

Her 5^th complaint was that her husband didn’t do the things she asked him to do.

Generalized complaints are disastrous to communications. So I asked her to get specific. What specific thing was he not doing?

She replied quickly. “He hasn’t fixed the leaky tap.”

Now that I had a specific, I asked her to write down why it was important to her.

“Because it’s something he should do,” she replied.

I winced. To me, ‘shoulding’ ourselves or others is just not helpful.

So, I asked her to rephrase that, but only using the pronoun “I” and to describe how she would feel if the tap got fixed.

“I would be able to relax,” she said. “And I would feel like my needs matter.”

Great. We were making progress. She was being specific about the issue, she was describing why it mattered, so it was now time to prompt her into asking her husband for what she wanted him to do, rather than voicing her upset about him not doing things. I can’t say how important this step is and what a game changer it can be.

She wasn’t sure about this.

“But what if he continues to ignore me?” she said.

I suggested she make a request for a specific date to test it out. And to add an alternative action if he didn’t want to do what she asked.

Here’s what Carol ended up emailing her husband. (Many men are very visual and email works well for this.)

“Would you fix the tap in the basement this week? It would feel so good to me to have it done. I would feel so considered by you if you did it. If you can’t or don’t want to do it, can we say by the end of the weekend, would it be okay with you if I called someone else to do the work?”

Carol sent it off and didn’t hear from Don about it, but later that day heard some sounds in the basement and sure enough, Don was fixing the tap.

I’ll start working on the other things in her list once she’s recovered from shock.

An Excellent Communication Skill Set:

If you want to spruce up your communication skills, follow these guidelines:

!) Talk only about ‘specific’ situations.

2) Talk about what you want, not what you don’t want.

3) Provide information about how it would feel to you to get what you want.

4) Suggest a completion date.

5) Suggest an alternative.

Learning How to Communicate More Effectively:

If I can help you make your communication more effective, let me know. Call me for a chat.

Please pass this on to anyone you think might benefit! Thanks!

Karen