‘Karens’ have been called entitled. Histrionic. Self-absorbed. Even racist.
According to the Urban Dictionary, a ‘Karen’ is a middle-aged women, typically blond, who makes a big fuss over minor inconveniences. An example is the woman who sued a city council after they installed a STOP sign that blocked the sun from her window for 10 minutes a day. (The sign was put in after a child was hit by a speeding driver and killed.)
This type of person is nasty, but lots of people are nasty who aren’t named ‘Karen’. But ‘Karens’ are getting bashed these days all over the Internet. I should know. I am named Karen. I like to think I’m an ‘evolved Karen’ and that the judgements about my name don’t apply to me, but, nonetheless, they sting. You’ll understand one day if your own name becomes a derogatory word. The Lindas, Becky’s and Chads of the world have already been through it.
Why are ‘Karens’ getting hit so hard? What is this anti-Karen movement all about? When I heard someone call Donald Trump referred to as a “Karen in Chief”, I knew I had to do some digging. As I explored, it seemed to me that our culture is always trying to self-regulate and this is a good thing. Right now, there is a great deal of rejigging, much needed rejigging, around the issue of white privilege. Most white people are swimming in privilege and don’t even know it, so the ‘Karen’ bashing is a way our culture is trying to get us to SEE privilege more clearly and it’s easier to see in the behaviours of some white, blond, middle-aged women. And my goodness, we so need to see it!
For example, a friend of mine said she didn’t realize she was being entitled when she heard herself telling her husband to “call the manager” when he was displeased in a store one day. This friend isn’t named ‘Karen’ but realized she was acting like the ‘Karen’ so many people are talking about. And she changed her behaviour and retracted her request. Being ‘unKaren like’ can be a good thing.
But there are also good things about actually being a ‘Karen’. First of all, many of them are highly sensitive. They feel things acutely and can often sniff what they consider ‘injustice’ a mile away. Okay, maybe two miles away. And once their snouts have gotten hold of what they think is injustice, they are willing to shout about it long and hard. And they have no scruples about taking action when others won’t. It’s almost as if they enjoy rocking the boat.
Our culture needs more people speaking up right now. We have been quiet for WAY too long about the atrocities being done to the planet and its divergent peoples. But we need to do it in a way that can be heard. (This is my superpower, helping people “say the unsayable” in ways that will be respected and heard.)
So, this is a call to all ‘Karens’. Instead of brandishing white privilege, speak out against it. Let’s be the blonds at the front of the protest march, the pushy broads who stand up to the cops when they are acting in racist ways.
The world needs us ‘evolved Karens’ now more than ever.
“Women are stupid.” It’s hard to believe that people ever accepted that belief, but they did. Even women themselves believed it. Which made it very difficult for women to speak up and for men to listen when they did!
Many women, and men too, still have beliefs that silence them. That’s why in my new course, Inner Authority, Saying the Unsayable, I’ll be teaching people how to uninstall old ones and reinstall new ones.
Dr. Chris Walton, who wrote The Gamma Mindset, contends that the conscious mind is only in charge about 5% of the time. The vast majority of our behaviour is determined by programs that are buried in our unconscious. These programs, or beliefs, were installed by parents and the prevailing culture. Most of us are not even aware of them. This is partly because as scientists like Bruce Lipton say, most of these programs are firmly installed by the time we’re 7 years old.
No wonder it feels so difficult to change behaviours. We all know the limitations of self-discipline. New research on discipline is showing that we all only have a limited amount of it and it usually runs out before new habits have had enough time to establish themselves.
What about affirmations? Because they use only the conscious mind, they can only have a very limited effect.
Fortunately there are new mind technologies that can access the unconscious..Using myself as a guinea pig, I’ve been experimenting with a specific protocols and I’m excited by the results I’m getting.
I start by determining a specific belief that I’d like to have. Then, I muscle test the belief to assess how strong or weak it is in my energetic system. If it’s weak, I do a short protocol that involves some specific breathing, then some specific tapping, and a heart coherence process while I rest in what’s called the Whole Brain posture.
This takes about 10-15 minutes max. When I’m done, I muscle test again and usually find that the belief is strong and robust. And always feel more energetic.
Would you like to try it out?
I’m going to be teaching this protocol in my new course, Inner Authority, Saying and Unsayable, because I often find that beliefs often hold people back from speaking their truth and I want to teach tools that people can use on their own to free themselves up.
To learn more about the course, click HERE NOW!
A this time of year, we can all benefit from a smile. Even the commercials on TV seem eager to warm our hearts and get us smiling. Here are some 3-minute ads that will brighten your spirits. Please pass the smile on to others.
This one shows a man learning a new language so he can communicate with his grandchild.
This video is a poignant one about a holiday with a loved one missing.
This video shows the generosity of a woman to a child.
And one about how our faults can be put to good use.
And lastly, the Christmas concert. Delightful!
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Have a wonderful holiday. Make sure you show as much love and kindness to yourself as you show to others.
As always, I’m cheering you on from the sidelines!
Loving ourselves is one of the most important things you can do for your own personal development. Why? Because love is the most vital nourishment you can receive and most of us are sadly lacking in it.
Our need for love is a primal prerequisite for survival. It’s been like that since your arrival on the planet. Newborns can be fed all kinds of nutrient-rich food, but without love, they get a medical condition called “failure to thrive.” To do well, we all need copious amounts of food from the heart. Nothing else comes close to it. As babies, we have to rely on the adults around us to fulfill this need, but as adults, loving ourselves is something we can do and when we do, we thrive.
Here are two resources. The first is from Louise Hay who was one of first people to talk extensively about self-love. The second is a little book called, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended On It by Kamal Ravikant, which tells abou his own journey to love himself. It’s a short but poignant read.
Speaking of books, I also have a section in my new book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine, but, because I’m committed to your personal growth and there’s no time like that present, I want to offer you a short exercise you can do right now that will help to open your heart. We are so used to working from our heads, that we often forget about the heart, but this exericse can be very powerful.
Put your hand on your over heart right now and just breathe into it for a few moments. The heart often has a lot of say, so you may experience some feelings as you do this. If so, just let that be. Just keep breathing and feeling this amazing electromagnetic field that lives in your chest. It’s dozens of times more powerful that anything above your shoulders.
Now, see if you can connect your own heart to the huge heart of the cosmos. Feel that spiritual heart cascading lovingness into you, filling you with warm loving kindness. Let yourself float in the ocean of it for a while.
Feel any different?
I thought so.
"Karen has helped me transform my life. I am so grateful." ~Kelly Cowan. Trainer
"Karen guided me back to my essential self. During huge career changes, she helped me create balance. She's also a load of fun." - Kathy Shulman