Do you find it hard to stop complaining?

I do! And from the feedback I got from my post on complaining, so do LOTS of people.

For me, what I’ve learned this week is that complaining about someone or something is a sure sign that I’m giving my power away. And the only way to stop the complaining is to take my power back, which I can do by pulling my attention away from the offending person or situation and focusing on myself and what I NEED in that moment. When I do that, the need to complain just melts away.

The people who wrote in about complaining verified that. Lisa told me she found herself complaining about someone who used her tools and didn’t put them back. You know what she did? She found a box for them and now keeps the box in a place that only she knows about.

And Sam told me that he was complaining about someone who often phoned him and took up all the talking space, obliterating her chance of getting a word in otherwise. So se did two things: he just stopped letting the person go on and on and said he had to get off the phone the moment he felt frustrated. And the next time the person did it, he said:  “Can you talk less today so I can talk a bit more and we can have a more even conversation?” To his surprise, the person, although she was a little taken aback, DID give her more room.

So now, when I hear myself complaining . . .

Instead of giving in to the temptation to blame the other person for how I’m feeling, I take full responsibility for my experience and get my focus to return to my own well being and then create things differently. AND IT WORKS!

Try this and experience the effects. And let me know. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE hearing from you. So please feel free to zip me a note. And let me know if I can help you with anything. That’s my mission. To become as evolved as I can and help others to do the same.

Your devoted Coach,