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IS SELF-MASTERY POSSIBLE?

October 22, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

              SUPER SELF-MASTERY

How to Keep Your Power & Poise No Matter What

 

  • Tired of being reactive to other people’s stuff?
  • Frustrated by not feeling in charge, even over your thoughts and feelings?

As a personal development coach for decades, I’ve taught a LOT of people how to stay strong and centered in tough times. I want to share the tools I’ve learned with people who aren’t my clients, so I wrote the book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. The book is getting great reviews, but I want people to really understand and apply the tools, so I’ve developed a course called:  SUPER SELF-MASTERY.

This is the first time I have offered this course online and I’m looking for a few people to try it out and give me feedback about it. In return I am discounting it significantly.

In this one-on-one six-week coaching program you will:

  • Deepen your connectedness to your authentic self.
  • Help you stay ‘home’ during challenges.
  • Become more in charge of your feelings, thoughts and behaviours.
  • Give you a wonderful sense of self-mastery and peace.

The program will teach you several self-mastery tools: Intention, Breathwork, Visualization, Meditation, EFT tapping protocols, Future Self work, Staunching Energy Drains, Daily Attunement, Kinesiology and Radical Self-Responsibility. To deepen your experience, there will be short, daily assignments on weekdays. To make sure you get the most out of the program, you will have unlimited email access to me for tweaking the tools, encouragement and accountability.

For more info, email me: karen@personalbest.org or call 705-634-8371.

If you’re ready to take charge of yourself and your life, this program could change everything.

 

 

Filed Under: Inspiration, Self-development, Self-mastery, Visualization Tagged With: feeling in charge, managing your mind, meditation, self-development

LETTING GO

March 14, 2013 By Karen Leave a Comment

“If you let go a little you will have a little peace; if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace; if you let go completely you will have complete peace.”  ~Ajahn Chah

Girl with a balloonThe Cost of Holding On:

Most of the time, we’re so connected to holding on that we forget the energetic price tag of doing that. Here’s a way to bring that lesson home.  Tightly clench both hands. Even after 20 seconds, you’ll notice how tiring it is to do this. It doesn’t really matter what we’re holding on to, a relationship, a job, or a material possession─ it all takes energy.

And as the clenched hand exercise illustrates so well, you can’t reach out or grasp anything new when your hands are in fists!

Why We Don’t Let Go:

There are many, many reasons why we don’t let go. Sometimes it means facing our grief or other challenging emotions. For example, we might not want to let go of a relationship because then we’d have to face our fear of being lonely. Or we might not want to let go of job because we’d feel worried about money.

It’s really helpful to identify these emotions. Here’s a sentence completion exercise that will help you identify what emotion is holding you back.  Finish this sentence with the first thing that comes to mind.

“If I let go of (fill in your situation) I’d have to face my _________________.

Once you’ve identified the emotion that’s holding things up, practice letting that emotion go all by itself.  Just for now. As in the above illustration, the person who’s worried about facing their loneliness could practice saying, “I let go of my worry about feeling lonely. For now.”

I use the phrase ‘for now’ because we can only work with ourselves in the present tense.

It helps to remind yourself that all things change. All things.  Winter isn’t a failure because spring is here. Change is the natural rhythm of things. In my experience, more damage is done by holding on to things too long than by letting go of something too early.

A Behaviour Modification Technique:

Here is a technique you will find helpful. Write a phrase or few sentences about something you’d like to let go of.  Eg: “This situation at work” or “My feelings about D.” Now, scrunch up that paper and burn it or throw it away or rip it into pieces. There’s something powerful about putting things into action like this that helps.

Letting Go in Stages:

Another thing that will help you let go is to do it in stages.  Start with a little, then work up to something larger.  Like any muscle, letting go is a skill that gets easier with practice. I find this particularly helpful with thoughts and emotions that I need to release. I’ll just ask myself to let go for an hour. Or an afternoon. Or a day….. It feels much easier to do.

Beyond Letting Go:

It also helps to focus on what might live on the other side of Letting Go: a new, more responsive relationship, a better job, a more spacious house. Even if there’s no sign of it right now, keep use the energy of the vision to pull you forward.

And remember, I’m always here to give you ideas and support if you need it.

Filed Under: Future Self, Inspiration, Self-development

Eleanor Roosevelt Knew About Self-Care!

February 28, 2013 By Karen Leave a Comment

One of my favourite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt. She said,

“All the water in the world cannot drown you unless it gets inside of you.”

Couple arguingThis has particular meaning for me because I used to be someone who took IN things that I shouldn’t. In other words, I took things personally.

I still do this sometimes, but less and less. Now, I’m on a quest to take FULL responsibility for the state of myself at any time, I’m always reminding myself that I have choices. And one of those is to say “Yes” or “No” to whatever anyone else throws my way. If I’m going to be in charge of my state, I need to be in charge of what goes
INTO my state.The man I live with has taught me this. I don’t think I’m alone in having a partner that I sometimes find tricky. If he’s not at his best, he can act a lot like a rhinoceros.
That horn of his can stab.

The thing is, he doesn’t mean to be a rhinoceros, (and most of the time, he isn’t) but my choice is always the same. Do I take his comment in and get hurt or do I just
give him a wide birth until he’s in a less rhinoceros type mood.

As you can imagine, giving him a wide birth is the better strategy. Then, when he’s back to his sweet self, I let myself move in closer again.

So, Eleanor is right. I can only get weighted down when I take in what I shouldn’t.

Which means I can no longer blame anyone for how I feel.

We live in a culture that blames so refusing to blame another for how you feel is a huge step towards personal empowerment. I can’t just be passive and put the responsibility on someone else. I have to take action. And take action I am.

It feels good. Very good.

Filed Under: Inspiration, Self-development

Reducing Stress on Myself

February 13, 2013 By Karen Leave a Comment

heartsTo reduce stress on myself, I decided to take a break from writing my blog and newsletter for several months. One of my novels was nominated for 2 awards last year and I decided that even though I wanted to continue with my coaching work because I find it inspiring to help people create the lives that they want, I didn’t want to do any writing other than fiction. Thus my sabbatical.

Part of me told myself it wasn’t okay to do this. I mean, how can I run my business and not do my blog or newsletter? To my conventional mind, this was insanity. But I’m trying to think outside the box and trust that what inspires me, so I broke the ‘rules’ and did the writing I wanted to do.

(Interestingly enough, the title of my next book, which is young adult fiction, is ‘Saving Crazy’  : )

And I’m busier than ever. So, thank you for your patience. But I will be blogging and doing my newsletter again now with some more regularity so keep eye out. I want to bring you lots of tips and tools for handle anxiety and stress and live an inspired, ‘Best’ Life.

Speaking of inspiration, here’s a short YouTube video on living more authentically to your true self. It’s short and inspiring so give it a watch.

http://youtu.be/dX9GTUMh490

 A Heart to Love:

I work with an amazing man named Pete, who is 45 and looking for a partner. He heads up a large non-profit in Toronto, so he’s probably not able to change his location, but he’s looking for a mate. Pete wants to create a family so he’s looking for someone who wants kids and who is interested in growing and creating a wonderful relationship. If you’d like to find out more, either for yourself or someone you know, contact him at: pete@bomberconsult.com.

 

 

Filed Under: Inspiration

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