The Badge of Busyness
Below is a poem about Busyness by coach, Christine Arylo. Although the poem is for women, both genders fall under the whip of the task-master’s ‘To Do’ list. and fall prey to getting busy!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to get things done, but never at the expense of keeping good, positive energy. In my experience, it’s vital to keep the balance between ‘doing’ and ‘being’. Clients/customers don’t hire us just to do things, they hire us because they like us, which is just another way of saying they like our energy!! Think about it, when was the last time you bought something from someone you didn’t like?
That’s why at the top of my page in the morning, ABOVE my ‘To Do’ list is my ‘To Be’ list. Yes, I want to get things done, but always in a way that honours my beingness. I try at all costs to avoid busyness. Busyness presumes preoccupation and make me less available to others. And to life itself.
‘Beingness’ versus ‘Busyness’:
One of the ways I keep my energy high is to cultivate feeling ‘spacious’. When I do, I notice that I start giving myself more time, and more room, which means that I have the room to experience life more fully.
The people I work with also feel the luxury of this sense of ‘room’.Both of us often step out of our heads and out of the contraction that busyness likes to create and into the present moment, which is the only place one can experience life. And then, strangely enough, we both take a big breath and we move forward more easily.
Here’s the poem. Enjoy!
We Burn Our Badges of Busyness:
By Christine Arylo
What are we teaching our girls?
You can be anything.
Now get going.
There is much to do.
Allow me to introduce you to your new lifetime companion
She will follow you everywhere from now on
You will learn to wear her as a badge of honor
She is not stingy
Some days you will be tired
You will try to unpin it
Your to-do list
What they (we) didn’t tell you
But YOU can choose
Girl, woman, sister
As you turn away
“Yes I can do anything.”
BUT NO … I DON’T NEED TO DO BE AND HAVE EVERYTHING
I am valuable simply because I am
Because I know the truth
I am enough
And so are you.
Once a week, I talk with my co-coach in England and today, as often, we asked each other, “What can you do to actualize YOUR BEST SELF?”
Catalyzing Your BEST SELF!
We knew it’s not through getting busier! In fact, we both felt that what we wanted was to be more aligned with our sense of being. For me, I want to be less harried and more spacious in my energy field.
As I talked about this, I imagined that if I committed 10 minutes first thing in the morning and last thing at night to modulating my energy and setting my course for the day, I could ramp up the actualization potential of this goal. In that 10 minutes, I’ll do a specific visualization and use EFT at the same time to ‘install’ the images and feelings more deeply.
How To Consistently be Your BEST SELF!
The thing is, I do these techniques some days, but not consistently. But I know they’re powerful and want to do them more, so for the next 21 days, I’m going to be applying these practices to specific outcomes I want to create in my energy field. My co-coach is going to support me and I’m going to support her by email to make sure we stick to our intention!
Would you like to take some new actions to attain more of YOUR Best Self?
Your BEST SELF 21 Day Experiment!
If so, pick something you’d like to do for 21 days. Make it small and attainable, like: “For the next 21 days, I’m going to leave bread out of my diet”, or “not talk about how much I dislike my job”, or “appreciate myself” or “meditate for ten minutes every day” or “do some stretching”. Whatever it is that you know will contribute to actualizing YOUR BEST SELF!
Ask someone if you can be accountable to them. (It’s amazing how much success skyrockets the moment you add in the accountability piece.) Ask your spouse, partner, friend, coach if you can simply report to them. Tell them you don’t need any comments other than “Well done!” if you report success and NO comment if you don’t report success.
So often when we think about trying to change, we think too long term and get intimidated or exhausted at the thought. But this is only for 21 days! Why not? Your BEST SELF will be glad you did!
My guess is that you’ve got several talents. Right? One or two might be latent or underdeveloped, but nonetheless, one might be sitting like a seed in the dark fecund soil of your soul, waiting for you to water it.
I think for us to be fully happy we need to develop all our talents.
For me, although most of you know me as a coach, I’m also a writer. In the last few weeks, I’ve been engrossed in doing the final edits for a young adult fiction book that’s being published by Dundurn Press this November. (My fifth book!)
What an incredible amount of work it’s been! (That’s why I’ve been remiss at writing newsletters, but more will come now.)
Meanwhile, here’s a delightful video that speaks to the beauty of complexity and commitment! Enjoy!
PS: If YOU want to talk about how to develop a passion/talent you have sitting inside you, give me a call & we’ll chat about it.
Changing Your Energy!
Being able to change your energy at will is a HUGE skill. It changes everything because it frees you from being dependent on circumstances outside yourself for how you feel!
Last week I talked about a course I’ve developed that will help you do that. In case you missed it, the course, ‘Change Your Energy, Change Your Life’, is a 40-day online course that delivers a short ‘lesson’ to your Inbox daily, bringing you videos, audios, inspirations, bits of humour, EFT tapping procedures and always a specific skill to augment your ability to modulate your energy at will.
Try The ‘Change Your Energy, Change Your Life!’ course
To try out the course for 10 days at no cost (and no obligation), click HERE! This is the last week I’ll be talking about it! Honest!
Here are some of the comments people who are taking the course are saying:
“The course reminds me that being happy is something that’s determined by me and not events. Now if I notice a mood change, I notice it earlier and stop and return to equilibrium. I love the stories and the videos too.” Evelyn Wolff, MD Wellness Educator and Artist.
Judy, another participant says, “The course is helping me stop my usual business and take a few minutes to breath and reset my perspective.”
Last Week for ‘Change Your Energy, Change Your Life course!
This is the last week I’ll be talking about the course so if you haven’t taken advantage of this offer and want to, go HERE
Energy is EVERYTHING!
Energy is what we build our lives with. It’s what attracts people and situations to us. When our energy is zinging with positivity and aliveness, we feel as if we can do anything. And we probably can.
When we feel ‘down’ (negative) and low in energy, even the smallest tasks feel like too much. Furthermore, because the world tends to mirror us, negative energy has a way of pulling in other negative energy, taking us down further into the mire.
Taking Charge of Your Energy!
Taking charge of our energy is probably THE most vital thing you can do for your self-creation. Unfortunately, most of the time, we feel like pinball machines, reacting to what happens around us with our energy responding accordingly. But there are new techniques and understanding of brain function now that can show you HOW to modulate your energy AT WILL!
I’ve described these tools and techniques in a new course I’ve just created called, ‘Change Your Energy, Change Your Life’. It’s a 40-day online course that includes a daily bit of coaching or ‘lesson’ (5-10 minutes long) and an audio or video with a specific technique to help you change your energy right away. Some of the lessons are pithy, some funny, all are inspiring. They represent the BEST of all I’ve learned in my 30 years of coaching!
Change Your Energy, Change Your Life!
I’m gifting the first week for F*R*E*E so you try it and see if it’s for you. If you don’t opt-in at the end of the fist week, nothing more will come to you. If you do opt-in the price is $29 for the full 40 day course.
Check it out HERE. Learn to create the energy YOU want. I’ll show you how.