Loving Ourselves

December 11, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

Loving ourselves is one of the most important things you can do for your own personal development. Why? Because love is the most vital nourishment you can receive and most of us are sadly lacking in it.

Our need for love is a primal prerequisite for survival. It’s been like that since your arrival on the planet. Newborns can be fed all kinds of nutrient-rich food, but without love, they get a medical condition called “failure to thrive.” To do well, we all need copious amounts of food from the heart. Nothing else comes close to it. As babies, we have to rely on the adults around us to fulfill this need, but as adults, loving ourselves is something we can do and when we do, we thrive.

Four reasons loving ourselves is so important.

When we love ourselves, we are taking care of one of our core needs. This gives us a sense of personal sovereignty. This will not only make us more attractive to others, it frees up the people around us to not feel required to love us. They can then love us, not because it’s demanded of them, but because they want to.
People who love themselves usually radiate a warm energy that’s very appealing to be around. They usually have a glow. We find ourselves wanting to be near them, as you might want to be around a warm fire.
Loving ourselves opens our hearts. When our hearts are open, it’s easier to feel connected to others and feel compassionate towards them. Even if those others are different in some ways from us, our open hearts help us to know that other people want the same things we want. Like us, they want to be happy. Like us, they want to be healthy. To be loved. Really, we are all same—vulnerable hearts beating with aspirations for a good life.
Lastly, it is my believe that our human hearts are connected to the great cosmic heart. Whatever you call this spiritual energy, this huge heart floods its beneficence through the universe, making the sun shine and the flowers grow. When we open our hearts and love ourselves, we usually feel connected to this huge love. When this connection is strong, we know we can relax because we are aware that we are floating in a vast ocean of beneficence. How wonderful is that.

Picture of an open heart

Want to open your heart?

Here are two resources. The first is from Louise Hay who was one of first people to talk extensively about self-love. The second is a little book called, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended On It by Kamal Ravikant, which tells abou his own journey to love himself. It’s a short but poignant read.

Speaking of books, I also have a section in my new book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine, but, because I’m committed to your personal growth and there’s no time like that present, I want to offer you a short exercise you can do right now that will help to open your heart. We are so used to working from our heads, that we often forget about the heart, but this exericse can be very powerful.

Put your hand on your over heart right now and just breathe into it for a few moments. The heart often has a lot of say, so you may experience some feelings as you do this. If so, just let that be. Just keep breathing and feeling this amazing electromagnetic field that lives in your chest. It’s dozens of times more powerful that anything above your shoulders.

Now, see if you can connect your own heart to the huge heart of the cosmos. Feel that spiritual heart cascading lovingness into you, filling you with warm loving kindness. Let yourself float in the ocean of it for a while.

Feel any different?

I thought so.

Scanning for the Good

December 3, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

Watching the news lately can be a discouraging experience, which is why it’s all the more important to “Scan for the Good”, a practice more and more people are using to modulate their energy.

I know what you’re thinking, there’s a lot wrong out there–the climate emergency, divisive politics, GMOs, super bugs, identity theft, and on and on it goes. It’s hard not to shut down and stop listening. Yet, in my opinion, there has never been more of a reason to stay awake than now.

Picture of Scanning for the Good

Remember the story of the frog and the boiling water? If a frog was suddenly dunked in hot water, it would simply jump out and continue to live. But, if it was put in warm water that was then brought to a boil, it wouldn’t jump out. It would just get more and more used to the rising heat until it died.

In my opinion, there has never been more of reason to stay awake than now. These are not times to close down. We need to have our wits about us more than ever so we can do what it takes to change things around. All the more reason to be able to self-modulate so you can stay open and positive even in trying times. One of the best methods I know to stay positive is an exercise called “Scan for the Good.”

“Scanning for the Good” doesn’t mean we deny what’s bad

Scanning for the Good doesn’t mean we deny the bad, it just means that we give equal attention to the positive. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) teacher, Dawson Church, is writing a book called the Bliss Brain. He says he’s writing it to remind us that when we focus on the positive, “we can hear the song of love that the universe plays all around us every day. That love song whispers through our neurons, echoing through the 27 trillion cells in our bodies, and harmonizing with melodies in the field around us.”

He argues that the “good old days” are a myth and that overall, life on planet earth is getting better! Here are some of the positives Dawson Church mentioned as he was researching the book:

Between 2000 and 2015, one billion people (one-seventh of the world’s population) escaped poverty.
The life span of the average global citizen has doubled in the past century.
In developed countries, the proportion of government spending on education and relief for the poor rose from under 2% to 22%.
Deforestation of the Amazon rainforest dropped by 4/5ths between 2004 and 2013.
Google searches for homophobic, racist, and misogynistic terms have decreased by at least 80% since 2004.
Despite the interruption of horrific wars, each century has been more peaceful than the one that preceded it.
From 1960 through today, the American poverty rate, measured by income, has fallen by more than half.
World carbon emissions per dollar of GDP have dropped by 50% in 50 years.
Child labor, infant mortality, maternal mortality, and domestic violence have all been declining globally.
The proportion of the world’s people without access to clean air and water has roughly halved in a decade.
The percentage of people meditating has quadrupled in the last ten years.

“Scanning for the Good” keeps your energy postive:

I know —despite Dawson’s facts, there are still a lot of bad things happening in the world. But really, when isn’t there? What’s important is that we don’t get discouraged so we can keep our energy positive and take on the things that need to be changed.

So, take a moment right now to scan through your own life and bring some of the wonderful things to the forefront. Savour them for a moment. As you do, notice how the thoughts re-invigorate your energy. That energy is important. It’s going to fuel the changes we need to make. And because it fuels a person’s ability to make change, it’s a tool I want you to know about and use.

As always, I want the best for you and the best for our world.

Confusion About Confusion

November 27, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

This morning I was watching a video on how we make ourselves confused. The video was from Donald Miller and is one of a series in his Business Made Simple Daily offering. These videos are short, only 3 or 4 minutes long and give the tricks and tools of running a business. Many of them talk about the principals in his book, StoryBrand, which I highly recommend.

This morning he was talking about how we sometimes choose to be confused and what we can do if we find ourselves in that situation. This is important because confusion is the quagmire of decision making and being successful in our chosen professions means we have to make decisions quickly and well.

So, how do we choose to get confused?

Let’s say you have a staff person that’s difficult, very difficult and you’re thinking about letting that person go. The minute you think this, you remember the health issues this person has and wince at the thought of adding to their burdens. Besides that, work-wise, you need this person and don’t know how you’ll find the time to interview and hire someone else. On and on the mind will go, throwing more and more complexity at you until you don’t know what to do.

Donald suggests this formula. Say to yourself: “The unfortunate truth of this situation is _____________________, therefore, the right action to take is ______________”

This statement will help you drop out of your head and into your body. I like to tweak Donald’s sentence so it reads: “Even though I don’t want to admit it, the unfortunate, but barebone truth of this situation is ____________________, therefor the right action to take is ________________”

Picture of confusion

Confusion Can Be So Confusing!

It’s helpful to remember that “confusion” is a mind thing. Sentence Completions are a great way to drop out of the confusion and get down to basics. I discuss them in my book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. In the book, I also outline a kinesthetic exercise that will help access your body knowing. Here is one such technique you can try on your own:

Pick a situation you want to make a decision about. Stand and imagine that situation in front of you. Close your eyes and just breathe for a minute or two. As you settle, notice whether your body is feeling an inclination forward, so you’re moving closer to this situation, or away, so you would be more distant from the situation. The inclination to go forward or back may be very subtle or it may be very strong. This will usually tell you what your body thinks about going forward or not. Or, if you truly are undecided, you may find yourself swaying from side to side. If that’s the case, you aren’t ready to make a decision.

If you’d like to learn more about these tools, please check out my book or contact me, and we can discuss how you can use these tools more effectively. My mission is to give people the tools to feel more in charge of themselves and their lives.

If you’d like to check out Don’s email, here’s the link:

Have a great week! I’m Canadian, so I’ve done my trial by turkey, but for my American friends, have a good one.

Are You Highly Sensitive?

November 20, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

Studies have shown that about 20% of the population are more affected by the stuff of life than others. Sounds are louder, lights are brighter, hurts are deeper. The ups and downs of living seem to affect those we call “sensitive” more than they affect others. I know because not only have I coached hundreds of sensitives, I consider myself to be one as well. It can be challenging being a highly sensitive person, but it can also be a gift. Here are some strategies that will make it easier to enjoy it.

Strategies that will help Highly Sensitive People:

1) Know that you are not weird, or dysfunctional, you just have a highly responsive nervous system, like millions of others.
2) Understand that sensitives are like canaries in a mine shaft, they can sense things more quickly than others. Yes, this can be a pain, but it can also be a wonderful ability. Consider it a gift and keep exploring how it can serve you and your family.

Diagram of a Highly Senstivie Person
3) Learn a variety of ways of calming yourself down or soothing yourself. It’s not an option for sensitives not to feel things deeply, but you can develop lots of ways to process the energetic stimulation. Being sensitive is a double edged sword in a way. Yes, you are probably more easily penetrable by outside events, but because of that very penetrability, some of the more subtle interventions like EFT, meditation and visualization can be highly effective for you.
4) Don’t wait until things are too much. Build in lots of spaces in your schedule so you don’t get overstimulated energetically in the first place. It’s better to be proactive than reactive.
5) If others accuse you of being “too sensitive”, understand that they are doing so because they think being tougher will save you hurt. But what will save you hurt is learning how to take care of yourself. So self-care is very important.

I was first introduced to the concept of the highly sensitive person through Elaine Aron’s work. I love her approach so she’s a great resource if you want to know more. She also has a great self-test at her WEBSITE

Tools For the Highly Sensitive People:

If you know you’re highly sensitive and would like to learn some specific tools to handle it better, please contact me.

Energy Modulation for Breakfast?

November 14, 2019 By Karen Leave a Comment

Diagram of Energy Body

Energy modulation for breakfast? Why Not? Most of us eat something to nourish our physical bodies before we head out into the day, but what about nourishing our energy bodies? There’s probably no bigger predictor of how your day is going to go than the state of your energy as you move forward.

Our energy field is either vibrating in a positive way or a negative way and our surroundings echo that back to us. If our energy field is shouting, “I’m having a bad day”, the world around us will often give us more challenging stuff. On the positive side, if we’re energy modulation is vibrating positively and happen to grin at someone, you will most likely get a smile back.

How to Incorporate Energy Modulation into Your Day

Want to try something different? Here’s a challenge for you. Or an opportunity.

Modulate your field every morning for a week. Feed yourself nutritious feelings and thoughts for 10 minutes every morning. There are many ways to do this. You can listen to a guided meditation (here’s the one I gave to my Super Self-Mastery course participants this week. TRY IT OUT ) It’s called “This is a Good Morning” by Esther Hicks. It’s about 10 minutes long.)

Or, you try some meridian tapping (often called EFT—Brad Yates will demonstrate a protocol on Youtube. This one is to help you Have An Amazing Day.

More ideas for Energy Modulation:

Those are just 2 ideas. I outline dozens more in my book, Find Your Inner Gold, 21 Powerful Tools to Bring Back Your Shine. You can check it out on Amazon.

Whatever ‘tool’ you use, get yourself humming with vibrant, positive energy and watch how your day unfolds. Because our bodies and minds reset automatically to our usual state of just scraping-by, set your phone to ping every few hours. When it does, take note of your ‘state’ and recalibrate accordingly. Keep returning to the modulated state you were in earlier when you nourished your energy field that morning.

Email me and let me know the results of your experiment. I’m eager to hear.

As I’m always telling my clients, change doesn’t have to be hard, but if you understand how your energy system works, you’ll be able to tweak it at will and will then realize that change is more a result of doing smart interventions than working hard.

And, if you’re interested in learning more about how to modulate your energy field, I have time to give 3 complimentary coaching sessions (30 minutes long) on how to tweak your energy to the first 3 people who contact me: Click HERE if you’re interested.