Every day we’re barraged with what doesn’t work. With what is going wrong. Or threatening to go wrong.

Once upon a cave, noticing “the negative” was an important proclivity, but now that we’ve moved out of ‘fight or flight’ survival, we are relying on our attitudes more to create our lives. To do that, we need to constantly modulate our attitudes so we keep our energy flowing and positive.

Here is a short video by Martin Seligman, the author of many books on Optimism and happiness, that describes a great new energy modulating habit that will help you keep your energy vibrant and alive.

ENERGY OFFER!

But just before we get to the video, I want to tell you about something that might interest you. As most of you know, I just finished the “Manage Your Energy, Master Your Life” Telesummit which was fantastic. At the end of it, I offered an hour long individual coaching session that I titled, “Your Ultimate Energy” at a reduced price for those that wanted to do more individual work with me. .

During this 1-to-1 session, I used a process called “Inner Relationship Focusing” to help people attune deeply to their own energy centres and overall energy field. It was exciting to me to guide people to experience for themselves the strengths and weaknesses of each of their energy centres or chakras, as well as explore areas that were stagnant, blocked or leaking energy. Once we had a deeper sense of what was going on, I gave them tools for deeply listening and healing their own energy.

The sessions were awesome to do and I got GREAT feedback about them! Now I want to give you, my faithful readers, the same opportunity to experience this, at the same reduced offer, if you want to. So, here’s the deal: One hour long 1-to-1 session for what I think is an incredible rate–$55. You can take me up on this offer even if you’re currently one of my clients, BUT, I’m only making this offer to 10 people so if you’re interested, don’t sit on your hands!

That’s it! Master YOUR energy so you can create what YOU want in 2012~ Here’s a video that will help you do that!

Or, does it not do these things. If it doesn’t, you’re in luck, because tonight, at the “Manage Your Energy, Master Your Life” TeleSummit, Alison Marks is s presenting “How to Energize Your Space to Optimize your Health, Wealth and Relationships!”

Alison is THE De-clutter Queen, so if you’d like to create spaces that support your wellbeing more fully, join us. When it comes to this topic, she’s the best!

It’s tonight at 5 Pacific, 8 EST and you can join by webcast:

http://InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=24207339

Or, you can phone in: 206-402-0100 Pin: 908763#

See you there!

Karen

But he couldn’t live with it. He said that even if he’d known how to change his life, he had no energy to do that and the little energy he did have was negative.

That’s why self-esteem and the amount of energy we have are so related and why I wanted to have Joe in the Telesummit series.  I can’t think of ANYTHING more detrimental to a person’s ability to create their lives than a lack of self belief. It affects everything.

Nonetheless, slowly Joe began to make changes. Now he’s is a world expert in creating high self esteem and he travels all over the world with his programs. And, he loves his life. In fact, he calls it a “12 out of 10″ life and challenges others to go for their best life too.

Joe was sharing all this in last night’s Manage Your Energy, Master Your Life TeleSummit, plus he gave a ton of tips on how to increase your self-belief and raise your esteem. It was a moving and inspiring talk. To listen to it anytime in the next 48 hours, click HERE!

PS: Please tell others about this TeleSummit–there’s still MANY great speakers left to hear! http://www.ManageYourEnergyMasterYourLife.com

She said that when she started her journey, she knew nothing about self-love. But she did know she wanted to live a more self-loving life than the one she was currently leading (in the corporate world), so she made a vow. That’s how it all started. A vow. That she would love herself no matter what. From there, she figured it out.

One of the things she figured out was the way fear can warp our energy and make loving ourselves more difficult. (To listen to the call, here is the replay information It’s only available until 8 pm this Wednesday so go get it! Or, to get info about the rest of the series, go HERE!)

For most of us, nothing can make us feel smaller, more constricted and unworthy as quickly as fear. So Christine has come up with the 40 Day Fear Cleanse. It looks like a great program, one I’m going to do myself. Check it out to see if its for you. 40 Day Fear Cleanse!

Meanwhile, however, since Christine loves to make what she calls “Love dares”, she tossed one out. The dare is to make this vow: “I will love myself for the rest of my life no matter what.”

I like dares too! So I’m going to up her dare so now it’s a double dare. And since my two dogs are beside me, I’ll add them into the mix too, so now it’s a double dog dare to make that vow!!!

Can you?

Of course you can! If it’s challenging, give me a call!

That’s it for this week. For those of you who subscribe to HA!, my HappinessAnyway.com newsletter, I’m going to be repeating the same content while the TeleSummmit is on!

Since I’ve been hosting the “Manage Your Energy, Master Your Life” TeleSummit, (Check it out HERE!),  I’m becoming SO aware of what energy drains and gains. Yes, some of this is an individual thing but there are some general truths and one of them is this! If you want to have lots of energy and lots of positive energy, do what you love.

When we do what we love, our actions are fired from the energy centre of our hearts, and the heart is THE most powerful of all the energy centres in the body.  That’s why when we fall in love, we feel as if we could do anything. We probably can!

Here is a gorgeous video about  someone who does what he loves!! Beware, the photography might make you cry, it’s so beautiful! Click HERE to see it.

It’s done! It’s now a living breathing thing!!!! Check it out! http://www.ManageYourEnergyMasterYourLife.com

I designed it because of my personal commitment to giving people tools to change their energy and feel great even when other things (like relationships, $, work, health etc), aren’t so great. My goal is to provide real value and what’s more valuable than our energy!

Energy is the “money” of life!

If you want to know more about energy and how to have better energy and more of it, check out this Teleseminar: http://www.ManageYourEnergyMasterYourLife.com and consider participating. And, please email the people in your world who you think might like to know about it.

It’s starting October 24th (1 week!!!) and involves presentations by 14 Experts (2 each week) who will give specific tools and information about how people can manage/master their personal energy better! It’s all accessible by phone or webcast and whether you listen to 1 or many –they’re all free. Replays will be available for 48 hours at no cost.

During the 7 weeks, these 14 highly-focused “Energy” Experts will:

Explain how energy is the “money” of life and teach you how to have more of it.
Demonstrate tools to change negative energy states to positive states at will.

Offer skills to stop energy drains.

Show strategies to master your energy and feel great even when other things in your life aren’t great.
Discuss why learning to master energy is VITAL at this point in history!

If you feel inspired to help “birth this baby”, sign up yourself and send it to anyone in your address book that you think might like to know about it. And if you’re on Facebook, mention it there.

Thanks! Blessings to you and your ENERGY!Here’s the link one more time: http://www.ManageYourEnergyMasterYourLife.com

Karen

“Energy” TeleSummit Host

And Americans have Monday off so they, too,  get to enjoy an extended weekend. And with the weather, at least the weather here in central Ontario, it’s already sunny and warm. I’ll be swimming this afternoon for sure.

Here’s a short video for you to enjoy! I loved it and want to pass it along to you and would appreciate it you would pass it (the newsletter) along to anyone you think might benefit!

Thanks!

But if we persevere and keep doing the new behaviour, this too, will become a track that’s trodden and worn and then this new behaviour will become easy too.

There’s an old saying about procrastination and it’s this: if the first thing you do in the morning is eat a live frog, then nothing worse can happen for the rest of the day.

Brian Tracy, a star in the human potential field, says that your ‘frog’ should be the most difficult item on your ‘to do’ list, the thing you’re most likely to procrastinate on–because if you eat that first, it’ll give you energy and momentum for the rest of the day.

And, it will cut the rope that connects you to something that’s dragging at your energy.

Here’s a short video about that frog I think you’ll enjoy. Check it out! Click HERE AND,if you liked this newsletter, please pass it on to a friend or 2! I’d love some  new subscribers!

Okay, you’ve identified something you need & want to change in yourself and so you just do it, right?

We wish! Most often, despite all our attempts, we fall back again and again into old behaviours. That’s because these behaviours have been passed down to us and are installed in our energetic systems. It’s not easy to eradicate them.

Why Changing Ourselves is So Challenging!

Which group of people is more likely to abuse their children–those that have been abused or those that haven’t? The answer is: those who were abused. You’d think that people who’d experienced the terrors of child abuse would be the least likely to repeat this behaviour. Not true. Why? New brain research supports this with explanations of how ‘tracks’ get laid down in our bodies and brains. These ‘tracks’ can be as deep as troughs & be very difficult to get out of.  They act as a kind of trance that we can’t wake up from.

Unskilful Ways for Changing Ourselves:

Sometimes people will use shame or chastisement to blast themselves out, but not only does this feel terrible, even if it does bring some change, the pattern usually comes back full force.

So, what does work? Repetition of the new behaviour. Repetition will lay down new tracks, making it easier and easier to do. The lovely poem below by Portia Nelson says it all so well. I love this poem because it creates compassion for ourselves as we go through the steps that changing ourselves involves. If we recognize that changing ourselves is often slow & incremental, then it will be easier for us to be patient and give the process the time it needs. That will help us to hold to the new behaviour rather than chucking it out of frustration.

A Resource for Changing Ourselves!

But before the poem, I want to tell you about something. A colleague of mine, Rachel Assuncao, has developed a 14 day e-course that’s designed to help you make simple and manageable changes to improve your health.  I’ve just done it myself and loved it. Although some of the material was familiar, the repetition was good and some of the material was new to me. I really liked that.

The course, called 14 Days to a Healthier New You, offers a daily practical tip or recipe to help you improve your health and wellbeing. The course is free and I highly recommend it.

To learn more, or sign up, click HERE:

Give it a shot. I think you’ll like it. Now, here’s the poem.

By Portia Nelson

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN 5 SHORT CHAPTERS:

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in
I am lost . . . I am helpless
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in . . . it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

The Badge of Busyness

Below is a poem about Busyness by coach, Christine Arylo. Although the poem is for women, both genders fall under the whip of the task-master’s ‘To Do’ list. and fall prey to getting busy!

Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to get things done, but never at the expense of keeping good, positive energy. In my experience, it’s vital to keep the balance between ‘doing’ and ‘being’. Clients/customers don’t hire us just to do things, they hire us because they like us, which is just another way of saying they like our energy!! Think about it, when was the last time you bought something from someone you didn’t like?

We Burn Our Badges of Busyness:

By Christine Arylo

You can be anything.
You can do anything.
You can have anything.

Now get going.

There is much to do.
So much that you will never feel like you’ve done it all.

Allow me to introduce you to your new lifetime companion
Her name is “To-Do List”

She will follow you everywhere from now on
She will be there to greet you when you wake
She will hang out near you all day long
And she will be there when you lay your head down to rest
Making sure that you don’t forget her, even as you try to sleep

You will learn to wear her as a badge of honor
This flashing symbol of busy-ness
She thrives on attention,
lives for compliments,
She seeks out acknowledgments of her busyness,
and ability to ‘get it all done’
without a sweat, and with a smile

She is not stingy
She loves to share accolades with her sister super women
Swooning and commenting on their multi-tasking feats
As if their doingness was the latest, most fabulous, all-the-rage hat

Some days you will be tired
And will want to set down the to dos
Take a break from your badge,
Whose weight you notice has become quiet heavy

You will try to unpin it
Pull it, tear it, yank it,
But no matter how hard you try
Your badge of busyness
Will not budge

Your to-do list
Doesn’t take kindly to being set down
Or Forgotten
She is fiercely intent on
Staying alive
Remaining on center stage
Where she can always be seen

What they (we) didn’t tell you
When you accepted your to-do list as a rite of passage
And fashioned on your badge with pride
Was that try as you might
When you tire
No matter how hard you try
You can’t hide
You can’t run
You can’t even pin that relentless list on some other unsuspecting soul

But YOU can choose

Girl, woman, sister
You have a choice to NEVER pick up
This badge of busyness
You have the choice to walk away and NEVER look back
Not because you stop doing and achieving
Which I know is one of your (my) greatest, unspoken fears
But because you know that you don’t need a
Badge of busyness or a never-ending list of to-dos
To prove your worth

Stand tall
Turn on your heel now
Do not follow us
A generation of women who unknowningly ran down the aisle
To marry busy-ness
And ended up with a sense of self
Tied to ‘what I’ve accomplished and gotten done in a day”

Turn away
Run away
And change your sense of self
for the good
of us all

As you turn away
We will burn our badges
And together we will change
The decree of women forever

“Yes I can do anything.”
“Yes I can be anything.”
“Yes I can have anything.”

BUT NO … I DON’T NEED TO DO BE AND HAVE EVERYTHING

I am valuable simply because I am
Even if I never pick up another to do
Even when I am doing nothing
Especially when I am just being
I am worthy

Because I know the truth

I am enough
Simply because I am

And so are you.

Mother.
Sister.
Daughter.
Woman.